Infertility, it can put a lot of stress and pressure on a relationship. I’ve walked it and here’s some thoughts I think could be helpful if you’re walking this journey too.
1. There’s Nothing Wrong With You or Us.
This is a weight you should not put on yourself or your mate. This is a journey that 1 in 8 couples face, it’s a common struggle, you’re not an anomaly. You may need outside help from a doctor, but there’s nothing wrong with that. We actually found help in a chiropractor in whom we love, Dr. Annette Kutz-Schippel from Endocrine Wellness.
2. Take a Break From Scheduled Sex. Listen, let’s be real. This can put so much stress and pressure on a couple. You chart, and chart and chart to make sure you’re having sex around the time you believe you’re ovulating—month after month after month. So sex becomes more of a job than a delight in one another. Here’s my recommendation. Because this can put a lot of stress on a relationship it’s important to step back to check in with one another and take breaks when needed. It may be it’s not even right for you as a couple.
3. There’s Good Options.
Early on in this infertility journey I just wasn’t ready to hear this, but later on I came to the understanding that it’s okay and such a gift. It’s not an admission of failure but really truly another opportunity to have the family you’ve longed for. After four years of infertility and one miscarriage we finally decided to pursue adoption and met with a counselor to talk about the process. There are so many children who need a family through adoption or foster care, what a gift to be able to give that to them. Now, wouldn’t you know it, just a few days before we would begin the paperwork for adoption we found out we were pregnant. This is not an easy journey. It's exhausting in more ways than one. Just know, you're not alone. God sees you, He knows your heart and He can be trusted with it.
