Marriage Matters: Meeting Our Husband's Sexual Needs
It’s really only fair that I address women too and not just men when it comes to sex (read my previous blog here where I did that).
Priscilla Shirer also had a show titled, “What Husbands Wish Their Wives Knew” where they addressed the question of sex and a man’s need for sex that is generally greater than a woman’s.
There’s a really important passage of Scripture in 1 Corinthians 7:3-5,
“The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”
You see there was this saying going around in Corinth, which said, “…It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” (1 Corinthians 7:2) Above was the Apostle Paul’s answer to this saying. He actually says, no, don’t deprive each other of sex; maybe for a time, but only if it’s mutual.
It’s important we take into consideration the husband’s need for sex, which may be different than our own and do our best to meet that need. It’s really a choice on our part and remember this isn’t about being subservient, it’s about a mutual place of giving which comes out of love and desire to meet the needs of our spouse. Paul even tells us that this submission to one another in our sexual relationship is a mutual submission. Just as the wife doesn’t have authority her body, neither does her husband have authority over his own body.
So, last week I encouraged the boys to meet our needs by being kind to us, today I’m going to encourage the girls to meet the sexual needs of their husbands. I’ve had many a conversation with women about the struggle they have in this area. Remember though, it really is a choice, and we really don’t have a clue the struggle most men go through with this on a day-to-day basis. I hope you choose to do your best to meet your husband’s need in this area. I actually had a husband of one of my Bible study attendees say to me he wished his wife would take more Bible studies with me after she went through a study where we talked about this. That’s called winning.